He's Not Into You All of a Sudden - Why it May Have Nothing to Do With You
You like a guy and he seems to like you. There is a connection there that is undeniable and you know that something's going to start happening between the two of you very soon and then, all of a sudden; he no longer wants to talk to you and avoids you like the plague. This leaves you upset, hurt, and confused and the harder you try to find out what's wrong from him the more he backs away.
Sound familiar? It should because every woman has been through this at one time or another. It can drive you insane thinking about it and to be honest in hindsight it's not worth as much energy as we put into it anyways.
So what could have caused this drawback and repulsiveness to you? Well, here's a reason why he may have decided to retreat from getting into something with you before you even really got started.
First off, maybe it had nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. I know that's not something that we think about in the heat of the moment but a lot of times it's true. It's our ego that says it must be because I'm too ugly or not funny enough or talk too much or any of the other thousands of excuses we use to justify why he must not like us.
But think of this, maybe he found out he had some disease that was highly contagious and doesn't want to pass it on to you or maybe his best friend died and he suddenly has gone into a depression where he no longer wants to even attempt dating someone. He could have also got scared about his feelings towards you which means that he's not ready to be in any sort of relationship anyways.
This can also explain why he doesn't talk to you about it and gets annoyed when you try to ask him about it. Do you think he wants to talk about his disease, dead friend, or commitment phobia? Nope. Besides, if he doesn't like you would most likely give you a lame excuse instead of just recoiling completely away from you with no warning.
The point is you don't know what's going on in his mind or life and it may be something that has him not wanting to pursue a relationship with someone no matter how much he likes them.
You have to stop beating yourself up and ruining your self image and worth because one guy doesn't seem to be attracted to you anymore. There's no reason that we should be down on ourselves and our abilities to attract men and keep them. Any guy, who doesn't want us, for whatever the reason, is the one that loses in the game.
Even when you learn how to be irresistible to men you may still have a few guys draw back before you get started. Again, this will most likely be about them and not you.
Bellaisa is an advocate for happy and stable relationships with yourself and with others and she has put together a site that has tips, articles, and resources for every stage of relationships called The Relationship Circle.